Today’s Bible Reading: Mark 10:1–31
by Bill Hood | March 8, 2012 | In Daily Reading | Comments Off
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Love and Self Denial
Mark 10:1–31
Divorce was a tricky issue back in Jesus’ day and it isn’t any less so today. In Deuteronomy Moses writes the following:
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 ESV
“When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, and if she goes and becomes another man’s wife, and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the LORD. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the LORD your God is giving you for an inheritance.”
From this one mention of a “certificate of divorce” the Jewish people devised a system by which a man could divorce a woman for any excuse he could imagine. This is a rather callous attitude toward marriage and not what God intended. The Pharisees, perhaps in one of their many attempts to trip Jesus up, asked Him if it was Lawful to divorce ones wife. When a Pharisee asks if something is Lawful he means does it meet the letter of the Mosaic Law as laid down by Moses. You see, they didn’t care about the spirit of the Law, only the letter. Here is how Jesus answered them:
Mark 10:5-9 ESV
“And Jesus said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
A man and woman joined in Holy matrimony become one flesh before God. Can you imagine the pain if part of your body was torn from the rest? Without immediate medical attention you would die. People who have survived an amputation tell of phantom aches and pains in the limb that no longer exits. Such an amputation changes the amputee forever and the associated hurt and pain and sense of loss never truly goes away. In the heat of arguments and anger, divorce can come to be viewed as a less painful alternative to remaining married but it is a lie. Husbands and wives will also often tell themselves that they should divorce “for the sake of the children”. This argument is based on the idea that seeing mommy and daddy argue and yell at each other non-stop causes more harm than divorce. This argument has been around for a long time and the research is conclusive. This too is a lie. Divorce hurts and it hurts everyone forever.
Our society today encourages so much behavior that inflicts a vast amount of incredible pain. People who have divorced have tried to make a decision that they thought was best, unfortunately they have been more influenced by the world than the spirit of the Bible. That spirit is one of love and self-sacrifice. You shouldn’t have to choose between divorce and your children hearing parents argue all the time. You are an adult and those children depend on you to act like it.
Most of our arguments and anger arise from our self-centeredness. We don’t like it when people are disrespectful to us, or don’t do things the way we want them to, or wrong us in some way. All of that comes from a focus on self. What would happen if you denied yourself and focused on doing your very best for your spouse? What if you wanted to do things her way rather than storm around and get into arguments because she doesn’t do them your way? Granted there are times when our spouse’s way of doing things might be dangerous or immoral and in those situations we are honor bound to step up and confront, in a loving way, the issue. What would happen when your spouse did or said something disrespectful to you if you ignored it? What if instead of being angry you showed them how much you respected them?
You are the spiritual head of your home. That means that it is up to you to take the first steps in changing the dynamic in your home. It isn’t about you; it is about the glory of God. How does how you treat your wife reflect the glory of God? You can’t control what other people say and do. You can control how you respond to them. You are the leader. It is up to you to deny yourself and put others first. Others are not here to serve you and you’ve got to get that into your head. Love and self-denial are crucial disciplines to master if you are going to be the man God created you to be. Get to work.
Have a blessed day!
Your brother and servant in Christ,
Bill
Dying to self, living to serve!










