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Be The Father He Created You To Be

Psalms 36–37

Father walking with childrenOf course, I love all of the Psalms but some just seem to speak to me more than others.  The 37th Psalm did that for me in today’s reading; it spoke to me more than the other two.  Father’s Day came to mind as I read this Psalm.

I started this blog because I want to continue to become, to discover if you will, the man God created me to be.  We like to put various aspects of ourselves into boxes.  In this box is the husband, in this box is the Christian, in that box the employee, and in the other is the father.  Of course we are all of those things, and more, all at the same time.  We don’t get to take off the Christian hat while we put on the employee hat; the husband hat stays securely in place while we wear the father hat.  In fact, hats are a horrible analogy for the roles we fill as men.  We fill them all at the same time; we don’t get to take any role off at a given moment.

On Father’s Day we tend to think about our dad’s, and we give them a call and we thank them for all they have done and continue to do for us; and that is as it should be.  I think, however, that Father’s Day should also be a day when we think about the job we are doing as a father ourselves.  When your children are grown, and Father’s Day rolls around, what will their thoughts of you be like?  Will they remember a man that was a good dad all the time or just when he chose to put the Dad hat on?  Will they bless your name because you helped them develop godly behavior that served them well all their days?  Will they remember a godly man who showed them by word and deed what it meant to be a faithful servant?

Of course, some of us have children already grown and out of the house.  Does that mean we can’t still have a positive, godly influence on them?  I don’t think it does.  I think that no matter how badly we’ve done in the past, we serve a God not only of second chances but multitudes of chances.  I think that until God calls us home we can be a godly influence for good for those we love and who depend on us to model Christ for them.

As I read today I noticed what was said about the children of the wicked in the 37th Psalm.

Psalm 37:27-29 ESV

“Turn away from evil and do good;
so shall you dwell forever.
For the Lord loves justice;
he will not forsake his saints.
They are preserved forever,
but the children of the wicked shall be cut off.
The righteous shall inherit the land
and dwell upon it forever.”

The children of the wicked shall be cut off.  What a desolate sentence.  As I’ve said before, our children reap what we fathers sow.   Every individual is responsible for the choices they make.  This is true for our children as it is for every human being.  Still, we influence our children even after they have moved out of the house.  No matter what stage of life we find ourselves, we can continue to influence our children.  No matter how badly we have fumbled the ball in the past or how well we’ve done as a father, we can, and should, continue to influence our children for good at every opportunity, not just when we get around to putting on the father hat.

That influence starts with how we live our own life and continues on to how we interact with our children.  If you have young ones in your home, what are you doing to point them toward Christ?  What are you doing to help them develop godly habits like daily Bible reading, scripture memorization, and prayer?  It’s not easy being all those things we men are supposed to be at all times, but that is why God made you a man; so you would have big enough shoulders to carry the load.

Brothers, I pray that your children will be a delight to you and that you will bask in the glow of their righteousness.  I also pray that you never stop being the father, husband, employee, Christian, man God created you to be!

Have a blessed day!

Your brother and servant in Christ,

Bill

Dying to self, living to serve!

(Originally posted 6/20/10)

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