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A Wife Is A Blessing From God

Proverbs 16-18

How do you view your wife?  Do you view her as a blessing or a curse?  It is very important to choose a mate wisely.  God intended man and woman to be joined as “one flesh”.  How would you like to tear your body in half?  Would that feel good?  That is what divorce is like; a tearing of the flesh.  Now I am a lucky man.  I have a wonderful wife.  Have we had our disagreements? Absolutely.  Have we had our moments where we didn’t want to be around each other?  Absolutely.  Would I ever consider leaving?  Absolutely not!  My wife and I are one.  There are times when I don’t like myself but guess what, I don’t consider cutting off the relationship.  Separation from myself is not an option and it isn’t an option in my marriage.

The trouble in any marriage is the failure to follow Biblical principles in our approach to marriage.  Paul tells us about this in the New Testament.  We are to love our wives as Christ loves the church; sacrificially.  But that is getting a bit ahead of the story here.  Look at what Proverbs teaches us about our wives.

Proverbs 18:22

“ He who finds a wife finds a good thing

and obtains favor from the Lord.”

Now notice that there is no qualifier about the wife here.  It say “he who finds a wife finds a good thing” not “he who finds a GOOD wife”.  Now there are many proverbs that do address the challenges one faces when one marries poorly but this proverb makes the basic statement that a wife is a good thing and that it is pleasing to God.  Once married it is a matter of whether or not we follow biblical principles in the living out of that marriage.

No matter the condition of your marriage today, it can be better.  It starts with an appreciation of the blessing you already have.  It starts with an understanding that God intended you to be married and He is pleased that you are.  It starts with an understanding that you are to deny yourself and be a servant to your marriage.  I don’t mean that you run around behind your wife asking in a wimpy voice “what can I do for you honey?”  It means that your primary focus in your marriage is not yourself but your wife.  Don’t look at your wife with eyes that see only what she can do for you but with eyes that see what you can do for her.

Jesus loved the church in such a way that He didn’t pursue what was best for Him but what was best for us.  With eyes that saw what was best for us He sacrificed Himself on the cross.  He was beaten, cursed, spit upon and crucified because it was what the church needed.  What does your wife need?  If you view your wife as a burden or hindrance then you are not living up to your responsibility as a husband.  You need to start looking at your spouse in a completely different way.  You need to look at her has Jesus looks at her.  Your wife is a blessing; start treating her as such.

Have a self-sacrificing day!

Your brother and servant in Christ,

Bill

Dying to self, living to serve!